Wednesday, December 9, 2015

Coping with Stress During the Holiday Season

It's that time of year again, where you have over stressed your budget, your time, your life.  You are surrounded by all the joys of the holiday season, but still you find yourself overwhelmed and exhausted.  Trust me, you are not the only one.  Today we focus on ways to reduce the stress, so you can really enjoy this special time of year with those you love.

I found this wonderful article from the Mayo Clinic offering ways to reduce stress and depression during this busy time of year.   You can find the full article here http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20047544 or read the tips they provided below:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings. If someone close to you has recently died or you can't be with loved ones, realize that it's normal to feel sadness and grief. It's OK to take time to cry or express your feelings. You can't force yourself to be happy just because it's the holiday season.
  2. Reach out. If you feel lonely or isolated, seek out community, religious or other social events. They can offer support and companionship. Volunteering your time to help others also is a good way to lift your spirits and broaden your friendships.
  3. Be realistic. The holidays don't have to be perfect or just like last year. As families change and grow, traditions and rituals often change as well. Choose a few to hold on to, and be open to creating new ones. For example, if your adult children can't come to your house, find new ways to celebrate together, such as sharing pictures, emails or videos.
  4. Set aside differences. Try to accept family members and friends as they are, even if they don't live up to all of your expectations. Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion. And be understanding if others get upset or distressed when something goes awry. Chances are they're feeling the effects of holiday stress and depression, too.
  5. Stick to a budget. Before you go gift and food shopping, decide how much money you can afford to spend. Then stick to your budget. Don't try to buy happiness with an avalanche of gifts.
  6. Try these alternatives:
    • Donate to a charity in someone's name.
    • Give homemade gifts.
    • Start a family gift exchange.
  7. Plan ahead. Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting friends and other activities. Plan your menus and then make your shopping list. That'll help prevent last-minute scrambling to buy forgotten ingredients. And make sure to line up help for party prep and cleanup.
  8. Learn to say no. Saying yes when you should say no can leave you feeling resentful and overwhelmed. Friends and colleagues will understand if you can't participate in every project or activity. If it's not possible to say no when your boss asks you to work overtime, try to remove something else from your agenda to make up for the lost time.
  9. Don't abandon healthy habits. Don't let the holidays become a free-for-all. Overindulgence only adds to your stress and guilt.
    Try these suggestions:
    • Have a healthy snack before holiday parties so that you don't go overboard on sweets, cheese or drinks.
    • Get plenty of sleep.
    • Incorporate regular physical activity into each day.
  10. Take a breather. Make some time for yourself. Spending just 15 minutes alone, without distractions, may refresh you enough to handle everything you need to do. Find something that reduces stress by clearing your mind, slowing your breathing and restoring inner calm.
    Some options may include:
    • Taking a walk at night and stargazing.
    • Listening to soothing music.
    • Getting a massage.
    • Reading a book.
  11. Seek professional help if you need it. Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself feeling persistently sad or anxious, plagued by physical complaints, unable to sleep, irritable and hopeless, and unable to face routine chores. If these feelings last for a while, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional.
At a Touch of Prana we know what it's like, because we too feel the effects of too much stress during the holiday season.  Make sure you find ways to give back to yourself,  maybe commit some time to practicing yoga at home or in a studio, give yourself some quiet time to reflect and meditate, or if you are in the area visit A Touch of Prana for your Yoga, Aroma Therapy, Reflexology or Reiki needs.

A Touch of Prana will be offering a special donations Restorative Yoga Class on Thursday, December 17, 2015 from 6:30pm - 7:45pm. All donations will be going to Macomb Hope Center in Macomb, MI.  Call us if you would like to reserve a spot for this special Restorative Class at (248)990-4395.

Namaste,

Jesse


Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Joyfulness


“Find out where joy resides, and give it a voice far beyond singing.  For to miss the joy is to miss all.”  Robert Louis Stevenson


As we continue to practice gratitude in our daily lives and appreciate our blessings, the big and small, we start to give rise to joy.  We begin to rejoice in our own good fortune and in the good fortune of others.

Joy is our natural state of being.  We are born joyful.   The difficulty in staying joyful is we live in a society of wanting things and having things to be happy.  Wanting things takes away from our joy, and having things is just a temporary joy that will eventually fade away.  “True happiness comes from our attitude toward things, not from things themselves.” www.wildmind.org
So how do we spend more of our time in a state of joy?   

Here are some suggestions from www.wildmind.org:

1.       Smile
“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” Thich Nhat Hahn
Smiling has an effect on how we feel.  Even when things are not perfect in our lives, smiling can make us feel better and reminds us we can deal with our pains and fears.  Smiling is contagious and brings positive feelings to us and to others around us.

2.       Appreciate
When we express our appreciation for what we are grateful for, we bring more joy into our lives. We can express appreciation through writing a thank you, telling someone what we appreciate about them, or meditate on what we are thankful for.

3.       Feel Love
Love is one of our deepest needs and the experience of loving is deeply beneficial and brings about a sense of wellbeing and joy.  You can evoke this loving joy by remembering the beauty in a loving gaze (watching a sleeping baby), or a loving touch (recalling a loving hug from a friend, parent, child).  You can meditate on joy and loving-kindness while feeling the loving energy of the Universe surround you.

4.       Think Positive
Our brains have a tendency to move towards the negative, but we can train our brains to think positive.  Practice turning off the negative thoughts by turning on the positive thoughts. There is always a positive side to every life experience even if our brain is moving towards the negative.  When you find your brain moving towards a negative thought, take a deep breath and focus on the positive.

The more we practice positive thinking the more joy we will experience.  Take a moment to meditate on all the positive and wonderful experiences happening in your life, the life of others, and in the entire Universe.

Joy is natural to an open heart.  Whether you are practicing heart opening yoga poses, showing your appreciation through loving-kindness, or thinking positive, remember to smile at yourself and others.  Joy is contagious.  One joyful smile brings another and another.  Keep spreading joyful energy everywhere you go.

“Joy does not simply happen to us.  We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.” Henri J.M. Nouwen
Namaste,
Betsy